Blog for Better Living

Get Comfortable with Being a Beginner

By: Rochelle Perper, Ph.D. | August 28, 2020

I’m not ashamed to tell you that I recently had a breakdown. I cried, got angry, and in no uncertain terms threw a temper tantrum that rivals that of a three-year-old fighting bedtime. The surprising thing is that my tantrum occurred in response to my husband trying to teach me the right way to do […]

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Anger, Anxiety, Personal Improvement

How to be Patient with Yourself and Others in a Changing World

By: Rochelle Perper, Ph.D. | July 10, 2020

We live in a time where everything can change at an accelerated pace. No protocol exists for a time like this, no wisdom upon which to rely or set a course to follow. If ever there was a time when we should show patience, it would be now, right? After all, we’ve never done this […]

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Anger, Grief, Personal Improvement, Stress, Trauma

Allyship

By: Michael Toohey, Psy.D. | June 19, 2020

Our country is in a state of unrest, as protesters take to the streets in support of racial equality. As we watch events unfolding on the news, we feel anxious, stressed, afraid, and for some…determined: determined to make things better for people of color. Many of us, however, are unsure what to do or where […]

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Anger, Anxiety, Grief, Therapy, Trauma

Why Men Go to Psychotherapy

By: Demet Çek, Ph.D. | March 13, 2020

We all heard the myths about men: Men don’t need to talk about their emotions. Men showing their feelings is a sign of weakness. Men, as a group, hold power and privilege. Men also experience psychological and public health issues at disproportionately higher rates than women. They are 2.5 times more likely than women to […]

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Anger, Depression, Relationships, Substance Abuse, Therapy

How I Practice What I Preach: A Therapist’s Journey

By: Rochelle Perper, Ph.D. | October 11, 2019

A common misconception is that professional Psychologists “have it all figured out.” As a professional Psychologist, I can say as our little known secret is that we don’t have it all figured out. At least, not always. I may have the training and education, but I am also human. I learned partly from my professional […]

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Anger, Anxiety, Depression, Personal Improvement, Trauma

Why is Self-Care So Important?

By: Paul Paris, Ph.D. | April 19, 2019

Forgetting to take care of ourselves, be it physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually, is easy to do. In periods of preoccupation, our increased responsibility or stress often puts our healthy behaviors “on the back burner” while we focus on more pressing matters. Research, in fact, shows that lowering or neglecting care of ourselves decreases stress […]

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Anger, Anxiety, Personal Improvement, Stress

How to Raise Awareness of our Emotions

By: Haim Shemer, Psy.D. | October 5, 2018

Are you aware of your emotions? Can you identify the emotions that give rise to your feelings of anxiety, disturbance, bad behavior, or other uneasy states of mind? To help us with meanings, Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines the word emotions as: the affective aspect of consciousness a state of feeling a conscious mental reaction, such as […]

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Anger, Anxiety, Grief, Mindfulness, Sleep/Relaxation

Arguments in a Relationship – It Happens!

By: Francine Martinez, Ph.D. | April 13, 2018

“If you want a relationship that looks and feels like the most amazing thing on earth, you need to treat it like it is the most amazing thing on earth.” -Author Unknown All couples argue. It is inevitable when two distinct individuals come together with their own personalities, temperaments, life experiences, and communication styles. Arguments, […]

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Anger, Relationships

Remaining Positive about Ourselves and Our Lives

By: Francine Martinez, Ph.D. | December 8, 2017

“The Good Life is a Process…Not a State of Being.” –Carl Rogers Are the demands of seasonal social gatherings and family getting you down? Are financial pressures or employment piquing your positive perspective? Does it feel like chaos and worry are taking over your life? The practice of Positive Psychology holds the belief that people […]

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Anger, Anxiety, Depression, Holidays, Mindfulness, Personal Improvement, Stress