Blog for Better Living

Are You Avoiding Your Grief?

By: Rochelle Perper, Ph.D. | March 2, 2018

Understanding the difference between healthy distraction and avoidance Grief feels overwhelming and unbearable at times. It leads to physical changes such as muscle tension and fatigue. Grief can make clear thinking difficult. Making decisions and problem solving may seem impossible. In the throes of grief, even the simplest tasks feel like monumental undertakings. Grieving requires […]

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Grief, Stress

ACT to Improve the Relationship with Ourselves

By: Paul Paris, Ph.D. | February 23, 2018

Doesn’t it seem like certain problems in life never go away? Or, if anything, they seem to get worse? Do you suffer from chronic depression, anxiety, feelings of inadequacy…those unpleasant experiences that become even more frustrating when nothing you’ve done seems to help? When such problems do not go away, even with therapy, I call […]

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Anxiety, Depression, Therapy

How Does Positive Reinforcement Change Behavior?

By: Jen McWaters, Psy.D. | February 16, 2018

We recently welcomed a new canine into our family and are in the process of behavior training and housebreaking. By working with an experienced trainer, I learned that training is more about changing human behavior than it is about changing the animal’s behavior. What’s fascinating is how the most subtle behaviors impact my dog in […]

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Personal Improvement, Relationships

Talking Hot Topics with Kids

By: Francine Martinez, Ph.D. | February 2, 2018

“If you just learn a single trick, Scout, you`ll get along a lot better with all kinds of folks. You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view . . . until you climb inside of his skin and walk around in it”. – Atticus Finch, To Kill A […]

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Children, Family, Parenting, Teens

Simply Living by Living Simply

By: Joy Francisco, Ph.D. | January 26, 2018

Has life become a hectic struggle? Have we become overly busy chasing for more that our lives have become cluttered with unnecessary belongings, responsibilities and extra burdens? These things can cloud our lives so much that we cannot focus on the things that are really important and meaningful to us. We attribute meaning to insignificant matters […]

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Mindfulness, Personal Improvement, Relationships

Social Media Ruling Your Life?

By: Shireen Shahidi, Intern | January 19, 2018

In the 21st century, doesn’t it feel like we are constantly online? We never really have a break from social media apps like Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and Snapchat. As a college student, I follow a wide variety of people on various social platforms, and personally am guilty of using these apps on a regular basis. […]

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Anxiety, Depression, Teens

Our Gratitude Tree 2017

By: Jennifer Wendt, Ph.D. | January 12, 2018

This Fall, we shared a wonderful experience practicing gratitude in our office. We created a large Gratitude Tree on the wall of our Therapy Changes office in Rancho Bernardo. Everyone who entered our office was encouraged to take a moment to invite gratitude into their hearts and minds. It was a moment to reflect. It […]

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Mindfulness, Personal Improvement

Changing Light of a Room

By: Anke Reineke, Ph.D. | January 5, 2018

“I always forget how important the empty days are, how important it may be sometimes not to expect to produce anything, even a few lines in a journal. A day when one has not pushed oneself to the limit seems a damaged damaging day, a sinful day. Not so! The most valuable thing one can […]

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Mindfulness, Personal Improvement, Stress

Take Care of Yourself During the Holidays

By: Paul Paris, Ph.D. | December 22, 2017

The winter holidays are supposed to be a time of joy. For some of us, that expectation may not match our experience. Typically in our society, for those of us who celebrate the holiday season, the winter holidays are spent with friends and family, engaging in traditional activities, sharing certain meals with others, or giving […]

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Family, Holidays, Stress